The need for objectivity, for the view point of an unbiased and observant and stable person, in our lives, remains paramount.
I often charge blindly into the night, and the day, of my life, with little or no understanding of what it must be like to live with me. What it must be like to interact with me, or listen to me, follow me, lead me, or love me. To say that I move through my existence with blinders on would be accurate.
The need for a voice, for the reasoned opinion and observation of a trusted compadre, who could bring data to me about myself, who could make me aware of certain ruts and pitfalls that they see me fall in routinely, this need is great. It is a need that many of us reject, out of a desire for safety. And perhaps for good reason, due to being burned in the past by over-trusted and under-qualified voices, who perhaps were not healthy enough to speak into our lives.
But we should still search for and invite these types of voices, especially those of our elders, who have taken a dozen more turns around the sun than we have, who have been to the war and back, who have struggled with, and overcome, the common enemies of our day. Enemies like low motivation, or greed, or selfish living.
Finding a trusted voice, a tested and true voice, can be difficult and dangerous, but it is worth doing. Our futures will be carved by our own hands, but we cannot get far enough back from our work to get a long view of where we are headed. Mentors and elders can do that for us.